Everywhere we look in life, we’re taught to limit ourselves to a particular way of being. The world is filled with definitions and projections of who we should and shouldn’t be. But how truly different are you? Are you choosing to go beyond the stereotypes?
Stereotypes are based on judgment. They’re meant to tell you the right way to be. The ultimate stereotype is, “I am wrong. How wrong can I be today? What is my litany of judgment today?” It’s crazy, but being wrong is what’s supposed to be right.
How much are you doing the ultimate stereotype that you haven’t acknowledged? If you came out of that constant state of judgment of you, what else could you create? Imagine how much space you would have.
Trying to get something right in order to avoid being wrong is not getting out of judgment. True freedom is where you are no longer doing right and wrong, you’re just choosing, receiving more awareness, and choosing again. It allows you to do what works for you rather than resisting definitions.
Here are some great questions you can start asking yourself to get beyond the ultimate stereotype:
How much do I prefer to be right rather than be free?
Do you try to be right so it makes you feel better? It’s a pretty funny choice we make. We have so much judgment of being wrong that we try to do the right thing so we don’t have to feel wrong rather than acknowledging that we have other choices beyond that. Right and wrong are the lies that keep us from true freedom.
You cannot have freedom as long as you’re in resistance and reaction to being wrong. What if nothing was about right, it was just about the joy and possibility?
What am I giving up with this choice?
Wherever you’re choosing to comply with stereotypes, you’re giving up you. What point of view are you using to rationalize and justify your choices? You will never ever have the total freedom of infinite possibilities as long as you’re functioning from the place where giving up you is a priority.
Start looking at everywhere you’re doing stereotypes. What else is available beyond the judgments? What will it take for you to acknowledge that everything is just an interesting point of view so that every choice is based on what you can create, not what limits you?
Who am I being with this?
Stop buying into other people’s realities; they won’t show you how to be you. Most people are looking for the right answer rather than the choice that will give them what they actually desire. No one will ever give you the right answer. That incessant judgment is a constant place where you cannot choose.
What are you picking up on from someone else? Are you buying it as yours? Keep asking questions. Every question you ask will give you to have more awareness of what’s limiting you and what you can do to change it.
Am I looking for something outside of me for the answer?
One of the biggest mistakes we make is to look for the perfect answer, the perfect situation, the perfect relationship… the right life. How much judgment is there in that? As long as you’re looking to be right, you’re making that the priority of your life over the freedom you could be choosing.
The only person who truly knows what works for you is you. Everywhere you’re looking for validation, you’re looking for someone or something else to tell you you’re right. There is no right answer, only choice. What would you like to choose? What if you allowed yourself to choose again and again every nanosecond without ever again looking outside of you for an answer?
Getting beyond the ultimate stereotype is about stepping into that space of possibility of being free rather than being right. It’s where you never give up you. How different would your life be if never ever again made yourself wrong for anything?
Simone Milasas is a lady who knows how to be a woman, who sees the joy of possibility and future and knows that there is the prospect of possibility in every choice and every new way to see how business is a source for creation. Simone has worked in many different industries around the world. She has owned companies, created them, managed them, and changed them, all with an enthusiasm to invite people to a different possibility in the world.
“I grew up with the question of ‘Imagine what you would do if you knew you could not fail?’ – to me you cannot fail, failure is just the start of something new” says Simone.
Simone has always believed that anything is possible and desired to inspire people to choose everything they could. Find out more at simonemilasas.com