If you have read my blog, you will know I have mentioned the three energies you need in business – creator, connector and mover. Most people attribute it to people you need in business, but sometimes people are more than one of these energies. Sometimes you can be strong in all 3, which is what we call ‘foundational’ people. But that doesn’t mean you need to do it all yourself! Or that being foundational is better than being a strong connector.
There’s no greater or lesser –and if you create what is easy and fun for you, and add other energies and people who find doing other aspects of business more easy and fun than you do, it gets to be more easy and fun for everyone.
Being aware of these energies gives you clarity so you can ask “who or what can I add to the business?” That’s one of my favourite questions!
I recently invited 2 multi-talented ladies and colleagues, Lauren Marie and Delany Delaney, onto my Omtimes Radio Show to talk about these 3 energies in more detail.
One of the things I see people don’t acknowledge is when they are a connector. How do you know if
you are a connector?
For Delany, recognising she is a connecter was easy: “People like to talk to me, all my life I haven’t tried to illicit info from people, and people will divulge personal information to me. I have never had to force it or try it, it just comes to me!”
She also works with a non-verbal man called Glen, who has downs syndrome and autism. She assists him in communicating with others with the aid of a communication board – allowing Glen to communicate, conduct workshops and even online seminars and telecalls. That’s another brilliant example of connecting!
If you would like to increase your own ability to connect, here are a couple of really good tips from
1. Listen, put down your own barriers and don’t judge what other people are saying – what if
it’s all just an interesting point of view?
2. Recognise that you are aware of other people’s thoughts, feelings and emotions, and don’t buy them as yours! “We have all had this experience you are feeling fantastic, then you start to feel a bit down, a bit sad, and then you are quite depressed. You go “I was feeling fine 5 minutes ago!”” says Delany. That can go the same when you are talking to people. If you suddenly feel nervous, is that really yours? Or are you aware of what is going on for the other person! Keep your barriers down, you don’t have to do anything other than be present with the person.
3. Asking people things that take their mind off things that they find tedious. “I will ask them a question, I will comment on how beautiful their eyes are. There’s a genuineness there too, I get a buzz out of people feeling good.
Someone who comes up with ideas all the time is a creator. Creators are interesting – I see people create in very different ways. Lauren Marie is an example of a great creator. When she found out she was pregnant with twins, she didn’t do the usual thing with announcing and having a baby shower, she created this really great website that invited people to interact with the twins leading up to and after their birth.
Laurens keys for Creators are:
1. “People create in very different ways. It’s all a contribution. I had a girl good at websites staying with me, so I asked her to help get me started. My partner is a creator too, and creates differently from me… I got him to write a piece from the twins’ perspective”
2. Asking questions. “When I had the idea, I asked “How do I create this?” I asked the twins before they were born “what do you want the website to be called?” I asked “what pictures want to be on there?” “What else wants to be on there?” Oh, let’s write a little piece, and so on.”
3. If you don’t think your idea is that big a deal, it’s probably brilliant. It’s just you don’t’ value it because it’s easy for you!
The mover is the one who can see how difference pieces need to be added, moved into place and create for different projects to work. It is seeing how the different parts fit together to create something in the future.
There is also a continuous connection that you have with everyone involved in the projects – whether it is the people directly involved, or those who would look at it and engage with it – now and in the future. The mover is the person who sees the future and knows that something else has to be instituted.
Tips for Movers:
1. Don’t go to conclusion or answer about what that has to be, be willing to perceive the energy of what is needed, then ask questions, be willing for it to show up, and be willing for it to change!
2. Most things don’t show up how you think it will, so you always have to be willing to have a plan B and plan C
3. As a mover, you don’t have to institute everything, you can ask “who could do this?”
Remember, you don’t have to do it all – what’s fun for you? What isn’t? Who or what could you add to your business today to have all the energies of creator, connector and mover with total ease?